Cotton Harvest Time in the South
Picking the cotton, pick pick pick!
Sharp prickles cut my hands,
Blood leaves my palms quick, quick quick!
My heart pangs for a lost home-land,
Tears hug my cheeks, drip drip drip!
I put my pain away, hide my eyes,
Keep working, lest I am whip, whip whipped!
(Sambanth Denis)
We have watched as the cotton plants have matured and in the last few weeks, harvest has happened. It is sobering to ponder the manual labor (largely slave labor) that it historically took to harvest cotton. It must have been back-breaking work in extreme heat conditions. Now fully mechanized, the plants are stripped of the fluffy balls and the cotton is rolled into big rolls to be hauled away for production. We are used to seeing acres of hay cut and baled and acres of wheat cut and run through combines, but seeing cotton production was a new experience.
Good Things Come in BIG Packages
If these pictures don't melt your heart, we don't know what will. Ashley and Winston have been attending MyBaby4Me classes weekly since she was 9 weeks pregnant. They have been eager learners and have been so supportive of other women when they see a way to support them. They have participated in interviews and been willing to be on camera to talk about MyBaby4Me even though they were uncomfortable being in the public light, because they feel strongly about the benefit our classes have provided them. Their little guy was stubborn when it came to delivery and Ashley delivered via C-section after 24 hours of an induced labor. Ashley is not very tall, and their baby boy was 9 lb 9 oz. We are thankful for another good outcome and another healthy baby.
"How Great Will Be Your Joy"
In the recent October Semi-Annual General Conference of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, Elder Ronald A. Rasband (one of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles) spoke about the need for more senior missionaries and the contributions they can make by serving. He said the following:
"I have called many couples to serve and watched as the Light of Christ has filled their countenances. At their return, they have described growing closer to the Lord and closer to one another, feeling the Spirit of the Lord pour down upon them, and knowing they are making a difference. Who would not want that?"
Our motivation to serve a mission comes from feeling deeply blessed in our lives and wanting to "give back" in a meaningful way. Our Stake President shared a quote with us: "Who we serve is why we serve". Our Savior Jesus Christ is our perfect example of service. He put others needs ahead of His own, he saw each individual for the potential they held, he served unconditionally and ALWAYS with infinite love. Our women meet in groups, but we serve them one by one, just as Christ did during his time on earth. We didn't ponder the blessings we would receive by serving but agree with Elder Rasband that we are being shaped by being willing to serve.
A Day in Little Rock with the Senior Missionaries of the Arkansas Little Rock Mission
Our mission relationship with the other senior missionaries here has been different than other senior missionaries usually experience. We are in Memphis, where there are 2 other senior missionary couples. We know the Boyces and the Wrights well and enjoy spending time with them. There are a number of senior missionaries in Little Rock in the mission office, then several more couples scattered in remote places across the mission. We have never even met some of the senior missionaries serving in our own mission because the distances are great and our roles are so different from theirs.
On Saturday, October 14th we all traveled to Little Rock and spent a day together playing tourists. We visited the Clinton Presidential Museum, rode the Little Rock Trolley, had great group lunch, and then visited the first State House of Arkansas built in 1860 and beautifully restored. The Clinton Presidential Museum contains true to scale replicas of the Oval Office and the Cabinet Room in the White House.
The Weight of It All.......
Mayzahn is one of our women who began attending MyBaby4Me at the beginning of September. She is the mom of several children but usually only brings her baby boy to class. He is 8 months old. He was an extreme premie, having been born at 26 weeks gestation. This little guy wears the consequences of his early delivery.....14 weeks before his due date. He is tube fed via a gastrostomy tube going directly into his little stomach and is on oxygen 24/7 via nasal progs. We are amazed to watch Mayzahn arrive at class and rush out to help her carry everything into our group including her big oxygen concentrator. Small oxygen tanks can provide oxygen for a period of time for those that are dependent, but a concentrator which plugs into the wall can pull in room air and do the job of creating pure oxygen for delivery. Concentrators are used when the need for oxygen exceeds what a smaller tank can provide. The baby's concentrator is the size of a large piece of luggage and is on wheels. It is safe to say that the concentrator weighs more than the 50 lbs allowed for a checked bag without paying extra. And here she is, lifting it in and out of vehicles and up stairs while carrying her baby in his car seat and a hefty backpack/diaper bag.
We watch and chat with Mayzahn as she prepares her baby's tube feedings which need to be done every 4 hours around the clock. Each time, she carefully measures multiple medications in liquid form and specialized formula, then lays her little boy cross ways on her lap and delivers the life-providing liquid to him, all the while talking to him and helping him learn to suck on a pacifier. She does it all so casually, as if every mom could do this. She does it in public view, night or day 24/7.
Mayzahn's baby sees a variety of specialists and it is rare for her to have a week without medical appointments for him. We have been able to help them by providing transportation to these appointments. Mayzahn is a responsible momma and is so sweet when requesting this help....she begins her text to us with "Gma (short for grandma because Joell is usually the one setting up the Uber Health ride), my baby needs to go to the heart doctor or to therapy or to the neurologist or to the gastro doctor." It is not unusual for a text to come into the MyBaby4Me phone at 3:15 am requesting a ride for the coming day; we always know at that time that Mayzahn is up for medications and feeding time for her baby.
This week, we had a request from Mayzahn for an orthopedic appointment. We were a little surprised because we weren't aware of any problems that her little boy had that required that specialty. In talking with her about that appointment, she explained that it wasn't for the baby, it was for her. She exposed her forearm as she explained that she was in a bad car accident just after her baby was born. that shattered the bones in her lower arm. She had wrist-to-elbow fresh scars and has titanium rods and screws in that arm. She is working with orthopedic surgeons and physical therapists to gain feeling and strength in that arm. The long angry red scars on her arm took our breath away, and the realization of all she had dealt with just in the last few months brought tears to our eyes. She spoke casually and joked about lifting the weight of her baby's bag and baby's car seat and baby's oxygen concentrator as being a kind of therapy.....she has never once complained of the pain or burdens and the weight of it all using that injured arm. Mayzahn is an example of the sacrifices that mothers make.
The Impact of Having a Criminal Record
Having been arrested, even for a misdemeanor charge, has impacts on many parts of a future life. A criminal record can impact the ability to find a good job and reduce life-long earning potential. It can affect college admission and financial aid eligibility. It may impact your ability to get a license to work as a health care provider. It will show up when you apply to rent an apartment or (long term) purchase a home. It will show up when your credit is run to buy a car.
We had a recent incident with a pregnant 17 year old; she attended MyBaby4Me group, then went home and joined friends for a trip to the local Target store.....where she was arrested for shoplifting. When she told us about it, she related she was just trying to get stuff for the baby boy she is expecting. We told her we would help her with everything she needed for the baby. She is now caught in a series of court appearances and legal consequences. Perhaps fortunately for her, she is a minor and many long-term impacts may not affect her because juvenile charges are usually not disclosed once the juvenile turns 18.
This topic also came up with 6 of our women as they were gathering and waiting for the start of our group at a recent session. It was interesting to listen to their spontaneous conversation about their individual arrest stories; most involved "boosting" or shoplifting. They related what their charges were (higher charges if you are caught after you leave the store vs. inside the store), how you can be charged as an accomplice by being in a car with someone who has shoplifted, which judges were more sympathetic than others, how it felt to spend time in a jail cell, and how their legal charges have followed them. It is safe to say that at least 5 of the 6 women in this conversation have criminal histories that we were not aware of. They are juggling court dates and plea deals and relationships with probation officers.
Trying to get around their criminal history, some of these women have had to enter into sub-leases or having utilities in someone else's name. This subjects them to the possibility of being taken advantage of. Others have paid exorbitant interest rates for a vehicle purchase or been denied good jobs that they were otherwise qualified for.
We don't condone what they have done but do cheer them on when they express a desire for a different life. We see the consequences that complicate the things they want to do and achieve in their lives. It is the reality of the population we are working with.
A Visit from a General Authority and His Wife
During the weekend of November 5th-6th, we had very special visitors to Memphis; Elder Vern and Sister Alicia Stanfill. Elder Stanfill is a General Authority of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints and serves as the President of the North America Southeast Area. Elder Stanfill spoke at the Memphis Stake Conference Leadership Sessions and Adult Sessions of Stake Conference on Saturday and the General Session of Stake Conference for all members on Sunday. We then were blessed to meet with him and the other leaders of the MyBaby4Me project at the NAACP offices on Sunday afternoon. Our final opportunity with Elder Stanfill and his wife was at dinner on Monday evening with our Mission President and his wife and the 2 other senior missionary couples here in Memphis.
Here is a quote from that talk that speaks directly to our feelings about our efforts with MyBaby4Me:
"We must remember that whatever our best-but-imperfect offering is, the Savior can make it perfect. No matter how insignificant our efforts may seem, we must never underestimate the Savior’s power...Our clumsy efforts can lead to miracles, and in the process, we can participate in a perfect harvest."
Elder Stanfill and his wife were delightful. They were so excited to share with us that they have followed MyBaby4Me from the beginning and wanted to hear about our experiences. Elder Stanfill reported that there are other cities in the South that have expressed interest in MyBaby4Me, with Nashville likely to be the first expansion site within the next few months. He said that managing the growth of MyBaby4Me so that it can be delivered in a standardized way in all sites will be a challenge and asked for our help in writing a "playbook" from our learnings that can be used with starting in new areas. We are humbled to be a part of something that will expand to a larger scale.
A Ninja Turtle for Halloween!
Kamari is now almost 6 months old. He was the 2nd baby born to a MyBaby4Me participant. We loved his Halloween costume!
We would close with this scripture from Moroni 8:17
"And I am filled with charity, which is everlasting love; wherefore, all children are alike unto me; wherefore, I love little children with a perfect love; and they are all alike and partakers of salvation."
Until next month,
Lynn and Joell Archibald
Elder and Sister Archibald, Coordinators for MyBaby4Me.Memphis@gmail.com